You are Destined for Greatness!!

So here it is.... whether you believe yet or not, you ARE destined for greatness. The real question is are you going to pick that destiny? Ya that's right. You still have a choice here. What is it going to be??

You may not believe me but our destiny is our own to make. If you haven't figured it out yet let me break it down for you. You are what you think, focus on and repeatedly say to yourself. Recently I have become a little obsessed with the talks and recorded seminars by Tony Robbins. I am sure you have heard of him. There is absolutely NO reason that man should be great... other than he decided to be. Maybe you don't believe he is great. Maybe he offends you to your core. Ok, I understand. You are not ready to take responsibility for your life, your choices and your actions. Come back and keep reading when you are ok?

Did I make you mad?? Good. Now use that to prove me wrong. Keep reading. Because you ARE destined for greatness. I am going to keep saying that because it is 100% true. What is greatness though? I think it really comes down to you!

Do you believe you get back from life what you give? How about this, have you ever been in bad mood so you let yourself lose control of your temper and maybe say not nice things to someone. Or perhaps you let yourself be selfish at the cost of someone else's happiness. Then later on, still not in the best mood bad things start to happen. I mean the reason you let yourself (yes you let yourself, these are choices here.), lose your patience, temper, whatever, in the first place is because you have had enough right? Life owes you a little break right? You deserve better than the crap you have been handed lately, right? But now that you have "stepped up" and taken whats "rightfully" yours or let out your anger "rightfully" so, life is handing you more crap? You lock your keys in your car, you lose your wallet right before a night out, your heal brakes off on your way to work... etc etc. Ya that's you getting back what you give! Sorry but its true. Mad at me again. Good! Keep reading.

So what if I told you, that you have the key to your own greatness and it all starts with gratitude. I dare you to try it. Just for a week, maybe 10 days. Keep a diary what happens each day. Tony Robbins as a great 3 step process to start your day. And yes... includes taking time to be very grateful. If you are on here looking at Facebook posts or playing silly online game turn on this Audio Recording in the background and have a listen. I DARE YOU! If you are in a hurry skip to near the end, start at around 54 minutes if you want. Wont be as great as listening to the whole thing but it will be enough. I could give you links to studies, research and many videos by people like Bob Proctor, Tony Robbins, Louise Hay, Robin Sharma etc. but I wont. If you want that info go get. Be hungry. Question what I am saying and go find answers. But I am telling you what you focus on, what you tell yourself every day (your language in your self-talk), and what you give out into this world is what is rather aiding you or stopping you.

I have another question to ask you. Do you have this feeling, a gut wrenching feeling like you were meant to be doing something different then what you are right now? Just thinking about it is driving you nuts. You can't quite put your finger on it but you know you should be out there doing something AMAZING! Maybe you don't. Maybe you already are doing something amazing every day. That's great. But maybe you are like I was. You tried multiple different types of jobs, you bounced around trying to find your place but you never felt fulfilled. Because that's what that feeling is. You feel like you are missing something because you are. It's called your greatness! Each one of us as a gift to offer to this world. Take a moment to really search your soul, look back on the ways you made peoples lives better, ways you helped them. Or maybe you have had some crazy hard challenges in your life, but you have made it out alive! What is it you have to give this world? This life and the people in it. I promise you once you discover what your gift is and you start using it every day to help others, or to give back you will start to feel your greatness!

You don't have to be rich, or amazingly successful at your job, or even popular to be great. You will know when you get there. I promise you. Find your gift, find your passion and live it. Live it every day. And be grateful for all the things that have made you the amazing person you are today. But don't forget, the choice is yours. You make that choice every day. When you wake up and hop outta bed or if you lay there praying your alarm goes off so you can fall back a sleep even if it means your late. The choice is yours. So are you ready to take responsibility for yourself, your choices and your destiny. Life doesn't happen to you... Ya I said that. Life happens for you! What are you going to do about it? 

Our Purpose is to Give

So recently I have been spending a lot of time reading and listening to Tony Robbins, Dr. Wayne Dyer, and Louise Hay.

I have to say for me this has been very enlightening. They talked a lot about our purpose in life and what it is to give. I think in today's day in age with social media and the other different media sources available that we see every day we end up being self consumed,  almost narcissistic if you will. We are always wondering how people are going to see us, if they're going to like us, how popular our posts will be... excetera. But the reality of it is to have a purpose isn't in what we get or how we are going to get it. To have a purpose is to give. That's right... A purpose is something we do...something we provide to others, this life.

I also really like listening to TJOP (The Journey of Purpose) channel on YouTube. It has a lot of videos about what we can give back to the universe and finding our gifts. It's because when we give we will get back the same. It's that same old saying, you get what you give, you reap what you sow, treat others how you want to be treated or karma  if you will.

For me it's hard because I was taught as a kid to always look at the richer people, the better off people, the people who had a better life than me and to judge and resent them. By the way this isn't an excuse. I am an adult now. My choices are mine.

However my parents taught me that it wasn't my fault I was destitute or didn't have as many options and that it was just life. They also taught me that I should resent the rich and the better off because they obviously didn't appreciate what they had and they also didn't understand what it was like to be us.

Took me years but even as a teenager I started to realize this was wrong. It wasn't that they were better than me and it wasn't their fault they had a better start in life than me and it didn't mean that they were better off either. You see the one thing my parents didn't teach me is that you get what you give in this life and if you're constantly giving judgement, negativity, resentment, anger, hate ... you are going to get it back. And that too can come in abundance.

I didn't enjoy those emotions. I didn't enjoy feeling them and I didn't enjoy giving them. And I definitely didn't enjoy receiving them! So I decided not to. I decided to be accepting and caring and loving. I even remember once being asked by one of my parents, "Why do you let your friends use you?" And I remember a teacher accusing me of being a follower. People are so confused by support given, maybe even given to someone who cannot appreciate it, that it can offend them, confuse them. At the time these comments upset me and angered me but I understand better now. They just didn't see the truth of my wanting to give people what they needed at that time. I wasn't weak, I wasn't a follower. I just could tell that at that exact moment that is what the person needed and I was happy to be able to be there for them.

However, there's a problem for me, anger is a hard habit to break and I'm still struggling with breaking my anger habits today. I watch my children and I can tell when I have fallen short because then they start behaving like me, getting really angry about things that there's no need to be angry over and so I'm listening to people like Tony Robbins, Dr. Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay and I'm realizing that I can change. I am embracing the concept of love again, something that used to be as natural as breathing when I was a child, and I choose to go through life with love instead of anger.

The best part is I will get it back. I get back in abundance and I want my kids to have that too. So I have started a new journey in my life. I personally plan on meditating more, I plan on making it conscious effort to tell myself everyday that my anger does not control me and that I choose to be loving and understanding and above all I choose to treat people better than they even think they deserve it themselves.

If I can teach my children this simple thing I could make their life completely different than mine. They will still have struggles, we all have struggles but they won't be the same as mine and for that I will be grateful. I know I cannot make their choices for them, all I can do is show them the mistakes I made and hopefully help them not make the same ones. A life devoid of love is a cold and lonely one. The fear of judgement, holding onto anger, trying to force life to be a certain way because that's just how it should be etc. I want none of those things for my children ... Or myself.

It took me over 30 years, 32 to be exact, to discover my purpose. I was naturally born to love, be understanding, compassionate and 100% accepting of people. This allowed people to confide in me my whole life. Telling me their secretes, desires and fears that normally they would never say out loud. I kept their confidence with ease because I knew how much they needed an ear to hear.

I never understood what a gift that was until later in life, after I had been conditioned to judge, hate, fear and mistrust everyone. But that was and still is my natural gift. I just need to unlearn all the conditioning I have had over the years.... And I have to say so far it's been awesome! I almost feel like myself again. But it's hard to do sometimes. I fall short a lot. But that's okay, because the love, understanding and acceptance I show others I first need to give myself.

I am not 12 anymore with a relatively simple and innocent past. I am now a grown woman. I have lied, I have stolen, I have mislead people for my own benefit... I have even broken people's confidence for entertainment. Things I am deeply ashamed of. But I can forgive myself. I can and I am not doing those things anymore. And I will break the hold anger has on me. For myself and those I love the most.

My purpose is to help others like I did so naturally as a child. By listening, loving them when they can't love themselves and showing them acceptance that so many in this world cannot find. I also am passionate about health and wellness so I share my journey and encourage others not to give up. I joined Plexus because I love the quality of their products and the real life changing results I have seen in others.

It's been amazing the wonderful changes that have happened so far in my new journey.

If you ever need to talk... Just want someone to listen... Just let me know. You are stronger than you think. I promise! And I am here to listen if you need it. As Louise Hay says... Life Loves You ;)